I finally figured out how to play this game online if you have the Steam version of the original Stronghold (Like if you purchased the Stronghold Collection on steam or received it as a bonus from purchasing Stronghold 3).
I searched online and the common way to play this online is to use the program called Gameranger. However if you do this you will have to add the game manually. Many have found that Gameranger seems to glitch up when adding this game. (
http://www.fireflyworlds.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&func=view&catid=30&id=2737&Itemid=271 ).
What I tried was moving the directory Stronghold was in. When installed on steam the files are located in a directory like this C:/program files/steam/steamapps/common/stronghold . What you have to do is take that Stronghold folder and move it out of the Steam directory and put it somewhere else. I simply put mine in the root of my C:/ drive like C:/Stronghold. Now you can add the game to Gameranger without any fusses occurring. I'm posting this so that hopefully more people will be able to fnd this information since I have seen many threads about this issue but no solutions. I will be trying to follow up by posting this information to as many places as I can on the internet.